fatlilautisticbird:

reydhd:

one of the least helpful things ive been told as a neurodivergent person is “don’t half ass things”

if you can quarter ass something, do it! if all you can do is clean a corner of your room, or only read one of the two assigned chapters, or write the heading for your resume, or put all the papers for taxes in a pile, do it! if today isn’t a whole ass day, take pride in the portion of ass that you were capable of

don’t let neurotypicals work ethic define how you did today

I was made to do a lot of housework as a child after school but before my parents came home. And every day without fail they’d find something I “half assed”.

I would try so damned hard. I’m talking scrubbing baseboards by hand and polishing under the faucet. And it was never good enough.

Now I’ve developed severe black and white thinking and hardcore perfectionism. I’m scared to start cleaning anything in my house because it will lead to the urge to (impossibly) clean everything in my house to an unattainable standard.

So I am a perfectionist neat freak in a dirty house because I know that if I start cleaning I’d probably have a panic attack. Thank god I can afford housekeeping.

This idea of “half assed” has F**ed up my life so bad. Therapy and medication haven’t made a dent in this yet.

Not only is cleaning impossible but I struggle doing anything to partial completion.

Please don’t say this to anyone. Do your best. Encourage others to do their best. Try to let that be enough.