Let’s review:

princessamericachavez:

When Nott stole from a guest: nothing happened
When Vex stole from a guest: she was mercilessly attacked on reddit, twitter, called a greedy bitch and had her alignment changed

When Fjord threatened Caleb with his sword because he was stealing scrolls during a mission: everyone called it a shippy sexually charged moment. 
When Jester and Caleb disagreed over money management: she was called a spoiled selfish brat who had humiliated him

When Molly slapped Caleb out of a panic attack and when he got uncomfortably close to his personal space: it was called a sexy shippy moment
When Jester insisted to check Fjord’s abs with a medicine check to solve part of the orb mystery (after Caleb’s insistence): everyone claimed it was gross creepy groping 

When Scanlan modified several allies’ memories to try to make them fall for him or get him drugs: it was all for laughs and giggles or interesting character choices that would eventually lead to his redemption
When Jester denied the Traveler’s suggestion that she use magic to get a boy to like her: she’s suddenly seriously 100% considering roofying Fjord to get him to bed

When Vax waxed poetic through long conversation with his two romantic interests: it was all swoons and heartfelt moments the fandom wrote thousands of words worth of meta about
When Jester quietly fumes over being jealous of an apparent romantic rival in the background: she’s stealing the spotlight and being catty and manipulative over someone she has no claim over

When Fjord cut off a man’s hand to take off his genie-bracelet: it was a badass and dark moment that had everyone speculating about his alignment
When Jester tattooed a little smiley face on a sailor: she’s suddenly an abuser branding her victims like a r*pist

So I am really honestly sorry for all the people who have actual and real reasons to be critical of Laura’s character and who are genuinely uncomfortable with some of her decisions, but the double standard has rendered me unable to take most of those claims seriously or lightly because they exist within a context where the trend is to demonize female characters over things their male counterparts are celebrated for. 

And I didn’t even get into Marisha/Keyleth/Beau but you get the idea.