Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.
TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?
QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.
WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?
GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!
ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?
PRO TIP – The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.
I reblogged this recently but it got better and ive been thinking and learning a lot abt love languages so
im all about crone feminism. feminism thats all about being bitter and old and living in a bog, swamp, or forest. all bout cursing all the men that dare to come near.
i feel weird because i don’t think anyone is obligated to care about fictional het relationships regardless of the sexuality of the participants but i’ve definitely noticed a trend where any canonically bi character’s het relationships are treated as far more problematic and damaging than straight relationships between two straight people and it’s treated as a total progressive imperative for canon to de-emphasize them or write them out as much as possible
and i’ve noticeda trend in saying that any character whose sexuality is semi-ambiguous or who displays even a slight preference for same-gender partners has to be interpreted as 100 percent gay/lesbian and a lot of vitriol directed at fans or creators who interpret or state those characters are bisexual
i mean, i don’t know if that’s people’s intention but the end result here would be definitely be…. bi characters not existing at all
i don’t at all want to say that bi rep is more important than gay rep or that people don’t have a right to pull for confirmed gay/lesbian characters but like, if these are the rules for portraying bi characters, we won’t have any bi characters and in some cases i think that’s exactly what people want
jane austen: this character is going to be the purest, sweetest, prettiest, kindest character i have ever written
jane austen: everybody will love her
jane austen: she is her mother’s favourite
jane austen: a rich, kind, handsome bachelor falls instantly in love with her
jane austen: the heroine looks up to her
jane austen: she has never done anything wrong in her entire life
jane austen: if she has any character flaws at all its that she is TOO much of an absolute sweetheart
jane austen: and i will call her…..
jane austen: jane 🙂
Overdressed & Underappreciated 